Thursday, March 24, 2016

Like Father Like Son



LIKE FATHER LIKE SON
BY
DAVID ARTHUR WALTERS



"Like father like son" is not the favorite cliché of sons who "have a conflict with authority." And they also do not care to hear the expression, "have a conflict with authority," a painful verbal reminder of their "need for discipline."

I suppose I was like every other rebel who thought he was being singled out for unjust discipline and who therefore took up Liberty for his or her cause. In my case, since my father obviously loved fine literature, my Liberty was Free Speech. Ever since then I have been hell bent on saying any damned thing, at the spur of the moment, that might please me, and the more shocking the effect, the more pleased I become. I recall how thrilled I was when I overheard someone say, in regard to one of my first business letters, "How dare he say this! I've never had anyone talk to me like this before!"

I did not realize in my youth that my father had also been rebellious and romantic from time to time, for that was a carefully guarded secret. There is nothing like being poor in the Great Depression and being a World War II veteran to discipline the savage beast in a man. It was a mystery to me how such a tough man like my dad, who was once a boxing champion in the Army, and went on long marches over bad terrain with a hundred pounds of gear, could shed tears over some silly little poem. I suppose that is one definition of a romantic, a knight-poet.

Indeed, my father loved poetry. He was inspired as a young man to write poetry. However, having experienced the sudden loss of my mother, Charlotte, and thereafter being confronted with several dire exigencies, he laid down his law degree, put aside his dreams of becoming an author, and became an electrician. And he was a proud electrician indeed. He often took me on tours of job sites to show me the excellence of his craft. He sang the praises of the art of pipe-bending, wire-cutting and -pulling and -splicing and hundreds of other things. He was a union man, and 'Union Made' and 'Made in the USA' were noble emblems of the highest degree of honor. Now that I think of it, he had not really abandoned poetry: he was living it. For him his work was poetry in motion.

In that poetry he had his rhetoric: he had his rhythm and his rhyme and his meter according to the broader scheme of things, a scheme great poets have associated with divinity no matter how mundane the details. All the elements of discipline were there to mold the temper of a soft-hearted, hot-headed Scot. Still, at home in a drawer, he kept his poems handy, and in those wee hours at night that were his alone he would read grand literature to refresh his spirits.

As for me, there was no way I was going to be like my father. Poetry was not for me, nor was electricity or electronics. That all went in one ear and out the other, like wire through the wall. Poetry and transistors were equally obscure to me, all too mechanical as far as I was concerned. I was determined to serve the cause of Liberty, and far be it from me to define exactly what the effect of that cause might be. I got up and left my home town to wander at random at a rather young age.

I left town with my prose, with my free speech. As the years went by, I learned to regulate my prose somewhat. Although it is unsuitable for publication, I take some pride in my progress. A writer very recently gave me permission to be a writer someday. Just imagine that!

The irony of not wanting to be like my father has dawned upon me as of late. It seems that, in my opposition to the very idea, the idea took hold of me and has wrestled me to the ground. My resistance was just a different motion in the same general direction. I did not take up poetry and electricity, but I literally picked up prose. That was once my greatest burden in life: I carried two footlockers of books with me on the train from New York to San Francisco, along with a little bag of clothes. Lugging those lockers around town and up the steps of a flea bag hotel over a strip joint was a real drag. Since then, there have been several occasions when I have not moved away from bad situations for years because I had too many books and could not bear carrying, shipping or leaving them.

Yes, there is nothing I like better than to curl up with a book since I like to read in bed, I sometimes even sleep with a few books. And I just love libraries. Libraries are my churches. Reading is my religion. It is as if I want to make up for all that time my father lost when he was on the job for twelve hours a day bending pipes and pulling wire, when his studies were reserved for those wee hours of the night.

As for writing, it is my yoga. Writing is my prayer. Do I write to get published? Are you kidding? Who do you think I am? Someone fond of rejection slips?

I suppose my literary fate is what some people call either a family curse or its blessing. Here I am, yet another rebel of my family, having lived with my father for only a few years, but very much like him after many more years intervening between then and now. But there are differences in several respects, one difference being that I do not write poetry. After all, a camel does not have to pass through the eye of a needle to get to an oasis. Nor does an inspired author need to be funneled through a sonnet to reach Plato's heavenly vault.

I do love to read poetry, but I do not read that sort of poetry one must learn to like while acquiring a taste for Scotch whisky. I have lately been reading some of my father's poetry because I am posting it onto the Internet for him. I must say I am often captivated by it. It seems to be free of formal discipline, yet it is certainly disciplined. He has invested years in a few lines. Absent the common rhetorical devices, the Muse still speaks, but with a great deal of his help. His prose has the same inner coherence and quality, an integrity I do not understand. Maybe it is really all prose with a classical sort of beauty that can be divided into a poem at will. How should I know? I am no poet!

Now I have received a letter from my father. What is this? He is giving me a lesson on the sonnet form. Oh, no! What is to become of me now?





Honolulu 2000

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

Brazilians Broadcasting Funerals via Internet

Brazilians broadcasting funerals by Internet to relatives abroad
Associated Press Last update: November 22, 2010 - 10:29 AM

SAO PAULO - A funeral home in Brazil is broadcasting its services live over the Internet, giving some of the millions of Brazilians living abroad the chance to say a final goodbye to their loved ones. The Gonzaga funeral home says it has started streaming video of burials, masses and funeral processions in real time to those who can't make it to the ceremonies. It even provides an online chat room. Funeral home director Eres Gonzaga told The Associated Press on Monday it charges about $60 an hour, depending on the service. The funeral home is in Governador Valadares, known as a hotbed for migration to the United States and Europe.

Monday, December 27, 2004

Memes outlive Genes

According to Richard Hawkins, author of The Selfish Gene, we leave behind both genes and memes when we die. Memes are replicating units of cultural transmission and imitation, while genes are replicating units of biological transmission. Our genetic aspect, Dawkins notes, will be lost after three generations, for our genetic contribution to our descendents is halved with each generation. The genes themselves might be immortal, but the collection of genes comprising any human being soon loses its integrity as it crumbles away in the generative process.

"Elizabeth II is a direct descendent of William the Conqueror. Yet it is quite probable that she bears not a single one of the king's genes. We should not seek immortality in reproduction.... But if you contribute to the world's culture, if you have a good idea, compose a tune, invent a spark plug, write a poem, it may live on.... The meme-complexes of Socrates, Leonardo, Copernicus, and Marconi are still going strong."

Friday, September 17, 2004

Memorial Events

The Universal Memorial Homesite enhances the quality of memorial events while significantly reducing the financial burden and physical inconvenience of mourning the deaths and celebrating the lives of those whom we care for. We accomplish this in several ways; for instance, by producing interactive memorial events in our virtual space for viewing on the Word Wide Web; by broadcasting memorial events live on the Web via video uplinks; by recording downloadable memorial events; by recording memorial events for distribution on compact discs and other suitable media.

Wednesday, September 15, 2004

Memorial Space

The Universal Memorial Homesite will provide memorial space for open public and secured private viewing of memorial events, and for storage and immediate Internet access to property lists, wills, trusts, epitaphs, biographies, obituaries, family trees, guest books, messages, comments, legacies, literary works and other desired information. Interactive antechambers for public mourning and interactive personal or family memorial chambers will be available. Linking and other convenient ancillary facilities will be provided. Memorial Walls will be provided for public visitation - each name will be linked to the individual's personal memorial chamber if desired. The archives may be temporarily preserved, maintained in perpetuity, and/or may be downloaded at any time, depending on the arrangements made.

Friday, May 21, 2004

It shall be done

The Universal Memorial Homesite will always strive for the mutually productive balance of commercial and spiritual interests so that each factor shall augment the other in the most beneficial manner for all persons concerned. The crass commercialization of memorial events and related products and services is absurd, and engagement in such a process would fall dismally short of the higher aims of the UMH Project. Hence the constitution of the Homesite's public and private space and the values incorporated therein must be overseen by persons of eminent reputation and substance. To succeed, the perpetual UMH Project must stand upon a rock. That requires the involvement of substantial individuals and investments. We would not have it otherwise. We would not proceed without the involvement of the right people and without substantial investments. Of course any idea whatsoever can be implemented if enough money and manpower are thrown at it, but that does not guarantee a market sufficient over time to make the enterprise worthwhile. Despite all the sophisticated business plans with their professional market research, cash flow projections, and pro forma income statements, impotent ideas are bound to fail. The power of a successful conception depends on its origin. The attractiveness of the Universal Memorial Homesite concept is derived from the most potent force known to humankind. Every human being at one time or another wonders about and searches for the origin of their being and are interested in their fate. Almost everyone would appreciate a taste of immortality or would at least enjoy the thought of having their life remembered and their mortal end commemorated. Indeed, absent the memory of those who have gone before, without hope for the future, civilization would perish. The Universal Memorial Site conception is a "no-brainer." The concept cannot be stolen for it is already out there and it is bound to be realized by the right people. It the right thing to do, and it will be done sooner or later. Please step forward if you are interested.



Thursday, May 20, 2004

Related Services and Referrals

A broad array of related services and referrals will gradually be made available by the Universal Memorial Homesite as the UMH Project ramps up and providers are brought into the alliance network, including but not limited to:Live Webcasting of Memorial Events; Archiving and Publishing Services; Professional Counseling; Life Planning; Estate Planning; Legal Services; Insurance;Trust Management; Mortuaries; Funeral Homes; Cemeteries; Crematoriums; Investments; Charitable Institutions;